Gelin bug\u00fcn biraz bundan konu\u015fal\u0131m.
Sizce birbirimizi ya da birilerini ele\u015ftirirken neyi ama\u00e7l\u0131yoruz? Ger\u00e7ekten iyi bir niyetle mi yap\u0131yoruz bunu? Bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim.
Biliyor musunuz, ben \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bunun cevab\u0131n\u0131n “hay\u0131r” oldu\u011funu biliyorum.
Hatta bu ele\u015ftiri, zamanla yarg\u0131ya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor. Herkes herkesi yarg\u0131l\u0131yor. Oysa, be g\u00fczelim,
diyorum ki:
Herkes kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131na y\u00f6nelse, “Hayat\u0131ma, kendime ne katar\u0131m?” diye bak\u0131p \u00f6yle ilerlese hayat\u0131nda\u2026 Ne g\u00fczel olur oysa.
Ama herkes yapamad\u0131\u011f\u0131na kinli, d\u00fc\u015fmanca.
Bilmeden, kar\u015f\u0131dakinin hayat ve d\u00fcnya sava\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ele\u015ftirip yarg\u0131layabiliyor rahatl\u0131kla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her insan en \u00e7ok kendisinin her \u015feyi iyi bildi\u011fini san\u0131yor.
Ke\u015fke biraz o \u00e7emberinden \u00e7\u0131ksa, kilitli kap\u0131lar arkas\u0131ndaki zihninde daral\u0131p kalmasa.
Belki de d\u00fcnyas\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fecek, bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131 yenilenecek, g\u00fcncellenip geni\u015fleyecek.
Ama insano\u011flu \u00e7o\u011fu zaman tembel ve korkak. Ya \u00fc\u015fenir o \u00e7emberden \u00e7\u0131kmaya ya da korkar \u00f6tesine ge\u00e7meye.
Ge\u00e7eni de anlayamaz haliyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ama biliyor musunuz, asl\u0131nda ele\u015ftiri \u2013 hatta bunu \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00f6yleyeyim: k\u00f6t\u00fc niyetli ele\u015ftiri (\u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc biliyorum ki i\u00e7i dolu, geli\u015fmeyi vaat eden ele\u015ftiriler var; kinden, hasetten ve bilgisizlikten uzak, tecr\u00fcbeyle dolu) \u2013 art\u0131k bu \u00e7emberle de alakal\u0131 olmuyor. \u0130nsan, en yak\u0131n\u0131ndakini, en dibindekini bile ele\u015ftirebiliyor. Kom\u015fu kom\u015fuyu yarg\u0131l\u0131yor, arkada\u015f arkada\u015f\u0131, karde\u015f karde\u015fi\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oysa herkes kendiyle ilgilense, ileti\u015fimimiz ne g\u00fczel olacak.
Mesela dese ki: “Bug\u00fcn kendime \u015funu katay\u0131m. Bug\u00fcn insanl\u0131\u011fa \u015f\u00f6yle bir faydam olsun.”
Ya da kendi hedefinde ne varsa\u2026 \u00c7o\u011fumuzun hedefi de yok belki. Ama hayat\u0131 bir odak olmadan ya\u015famak zor. Kaybolup gider insan ve muhabbetler bo\u015f yarg\u0131lardan, ele\u015ftirilerden \u00f6teye gidemez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O y\u00fczden g\u00fczel insanlar, ele\u015ftiriyi bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131p ya\u015famaya ve g\u00fczelliklere odaklanal\u0131m.
Onu bunu yarg\u0131lamay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131p sevmeye odaklanal\u0131m. Kalbimiz yumu\u015famay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frensin.
B\u00fcy\u00fcs\u00fcn, geli\u015fsin, geni\u015flesin, dolup ta\u015fs\u0131n.
Olgunla\u015fal\u0131m.
Kendimize ve d\u00fcnyam\u0131za yenilikler katal\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“O ne yapm\u0131\u015f, o neden yapm\u0131\u015f?” demeyin. “Sen ne yapt\u0131n, sen neden yapt\u0131n?” demeyin.
G\u00fcl\u00fcmseyin.
“Ben kendime ne katt\u0131m?” deyin.
“Ba\u015fkas\u0131na ne kat\u0131yorum?” deyin.
“\u0130nsanl\u0131\u011fa ne sa\u011fl\u0131yorum?” deyin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sevgiyle kal\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Gelin bug\u00fcn biraz bundan konu\u015fal\u0131m.Sizce birbirimizi ya da birilerini ele\u015ftirirken neyi ama\u00e7l\u0131yoruz? Ger\u00e7ekten iyi bir niyetle mi yap\u0131yoruz bunu? 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