Let’s talk about this today. What do we really aim for when we criticize each other or others? Do we truly do this with good intentions? Let’s think about it.
You know, I often know that the answer to this is “no.” In fact, this goes beyond criticism and turns into judgment. Everyone judges everyone else. Yet, my dear ones, I say that if everyone would turn to their inner world, look at their life and ask “What can I add to my life, to myself?” and then proceed accordingly… How beautiful it would be.
But everyone is resentful and hostile toward what they cannot achieve. Without knowing, they can easily criticize and judge the life and world struggles of others. Every person thinks they know everything best.
If only they would step out of that circle a little, not remain confined in their minds behind locked doors… Perhaps their world would change, their perspectives would be renewed, updated, and expanded. But human beings are often lazy and fearful. They either hesitate to leave that circle or fear to go beyond it. Naturally, they cannot understand what lies beyond.
But you know, criticism… Actually, let me put it this way: ill-intentioned criticism (because I know there are criticisms full of substance that promise growth; far from spite, envy, and ignorance, filled with experience) is no longer even related to this circle. People can criticize even their closest ones, their most intimate ones. Neighbor judges neighbor, friend judges friend, sibling judges sibling…
Yet if everyone focused on themselves, how beautiful our communication would be. For instance, if they said: “Today I will add this to myself, today I will benefit humanity in this way…” Or whatever their personal goals might be. Perhaps most of us don’t even have goals. But living life without focus is difficult. One gets lost, and conversations cannot go beyond empty judgments and criticisms.
Therefore, beautiful people, let’s set criticism aside and focus on living and on beautiful things. Let’s stop judging this and that and focus on loving. Let our hearts learn to soften. Let them grow, develop, expand, overflow. Let us mature. Let us add innovations to ourselves and our world.
Don’t say “What did they do? Why did they do it?” Say “What did you do? Why did you do it?” Smile. Say “What have I added to myself?” Say “What am I contributing to others?” Say “What am I providing to humanity?”
Stay with love.
— Hülya Alkuş
