Hello dear readers. Yes, I felt that I missed talking to you :))
So, let’s take a look together at some situations where we sometimes push and pressure ourselves, or place heavy burdens on our own shoulders 🙂
For example: Do we always have to be strong?
Sometimes life whispers that we need to be strong, or maybe it’s just us who feel that way—not life, not society.
It’s as if collapsing even for a single day would make everyone think we are weak. Maybe what you truly fear is simply that point of weakness. But I ask you—what is it that scares you so much about that?
Here’s the forgotten truth: Being human is not always standing tall. Sometimes it means bending, pausing, or asking for support.
So my request is—hold yourself close in this matter. Understand and accept that there will be moments when you feel weak, and don’t be afraid to admit it—first to yourself, and then to those you love and value.
This is where real strength begins. True strength is knowing you are human, and loving and accepting yourself in every possibility. It is standing up after you fall, not fearing or running from it.
It is knowing you may sometimes need a shoulder and not hesitating to ask for it.
The constant effort to appear strong can lead a person to deny their own vulnerable side, and that is emotional suppression. In the long term, this can pave the way for anxiety, depression, and psychosomatic problems.
Now, another situation: closing ourselves off—thinking “I must not open up to anyone, I should remain mysterious.”
This is the paradox of loneliness.
Sometimes locking your heart makes you feel safe. But loneliness can be the rust on that lock.
We often hear: Sorrows shared become lighter, happiness shared grows.
Most of the time, opening up to the right people is the breath our soul needs. So don’t be afraid to share and express yourself—it’s part of being human.
And there’s also this thought: “People are bad.”
Dear readers, I know you may have had negative experiences. Your brain may have activated its negativity bias, and past bad events may have settled deeply in your memory.
But did you know? Positive psychology studies reveal that the vast majority of people are inclined to cooperate and help.
Here’s the most striking point you should notice:
Making generalizations about all people based on individual examples can cause you to miss opportunities in your relationships.
When starting to connect with others, you need to leave some of your prejudices behind. Of course, I’m not saying you should proceed naïvely without any caution—but don’t turn someone into a character from your past before you’ve even gotten to know them.
Remember: Every person is like a vast sea.
You can only discover good people by building relationships. If you move forward with fears and prejudices, you may push them away and miss the chance to bring wonderful people into your life.
Let’s look another point. Trust is not always a risk.
When you get hurt, it’s easy to reduce your trust to zero. But without trust, it’s impossible to form new bonds.
Starting with small steps means giving both yourself and others a chance.
Learn to trust yourself again, and then learn to trust others.
Life is not only a fortress we protect ourselves in—it is colored by the people we invite inside. With careful steps, without destroying, running away, or breaking, you can protect yourself and still build healthy relationships.
Life does not require us to always stay strong, nor to trust everyone without limits.
Life is balance.
Psychological resilience happens when we embrace all aspects of being human—both our strengths and our weaknesses—as a whole.
And remember: Your strongest self is the moment you stop hiding your most human side.
Stay with love. 🤍
